It’s a brave thing to actively pursue love, but the way some people pursue love is slowly “running away” and becoming
a results-oriented process.
It is no longer a natural love after getting to know each other, but thinking about how to make each other happy with gifts,
or through various titillating techniques and love words, so that the other person “hooked”…
These are just staying on the surface of the attraction, but also let the ensuing “heart” come and go quickly.
Although there is a common saying that a relationship starts with a bouquet of flowers and a formal confession, it is
because there are so many such routines that the confession loses its weight and meaning.
The person who confesses is afraid of being treated as a joke, the person who is accused of being white is
afraid of the other party’s insincerity, and more and more people are afraid to break the layer of window paper
when getting along with the two sexes, resulting in the want to promote a relationship has become tied up.
Because the pursuit of love success is not only to see “whether together”, but through the pursuit of this
process of exploration and understanding, learn to love and self-love process.
So how to effectively promote the relationship between men and
women? To take the step from romance to romance? Here are 7 tips
that I hope will help you
1. When you like someone, should you hint or play straight?
The reason why many people say that people who “can play straight ball” are heartstroke is not only because this kind
of people’s love is always large and open, but also because of the “law of reciprocal relationship” in psychology:
“Love will be loved, hate will be hated.”
So, we will like people who like us back.
In the same way, the more love you give, the more you receive.
When you express your affection openly, you are more likely to receive more affection.
So don’t feel like you’re going down the drain by “showing affection when you’re not sure what the other person wants.”
Liking is in no particular order, and genuine love doesn’t have to be hidden.
2. People who have a sense of distance can’t connect with their hearts?Although always sing “ambiguous let people suffer grievance”, but “friends above, lover is not yet” this stage of
ambiguity, often the most fascinating.
The “uncertainty” caused by the unknown will precisely arouse the curiosity of both sides and the desire to explore each
other, thus giving the relationship a mysterious tension and passion.
On the contrary, if you are in an ambiguous relationship, you show your love too often, your behavior is too certain, such
as: frequent gifts and flattery, daily chat to show love in high profile, and you are planning to get married before you say it…
Not only will this raise your partner’s expectations, it will ruin the surprise and novelty of the moment in the relationship,
and it may put your partner off for doing so.
It’s okay to “play straight,” but not “play all the way.”
3. Why do you need to “reveal yourself” in love?
Self-disclosure in relationships: When you speak your mind to others, you openly confess yourself. This
“disenchantment” link, can let each other further understand the real self, better narrow the distance between each
other.
And the timing of self-exposure is particularly important, it is not all out, but a gradual process along with the depth of
the relationship.
Just imagine, if in the early days of understanding, the other party began to send you a large paragraph of small
composition, say some “out of the heart” words, most people will only feel dissuasion.
At the same time the most important point:
Effective self-disclosure should be back-and-forth, showing a willingness to express yourself and actively listen to the
other person.
If something comes up in the conversation that the other person is not familiar with, don’t just talk about yourself, but
also learn to ask the other person appropriately and proactively.
Love is gradual and mutual.
