4. What constitutes effective “touching”?
Proper physical contact can increase mutual affection, trust, and attraction during an affair.
But the premise is to be sure to make sure that the other party can accept the scale, otherwise it is easy to cause the
opposite effect, will make the other party feel offended, but also left a negative impression of “frivolity”.Do not deliberately create physical contact, it is best to meet the current situation, short and effective, such as:
When meeting someone, tap them on the shoulder from behind to signal your arrival; The unintentional touch of hands
and feet while watching a movie side by side…
When the relationship is not yet clear, there is a “sense of boundary” behavior, but more can reflect their own
prudence, more likely to draw closer to each other.
5. Why do we want to feel “needed” when we are in love?
The Franklin effect refers to the fact that people who have helped you before are more likely to help you again than
those you have helped before.
In other words: The best way to get someone to like you isn’t to help them, it’s to get them to help you.
So instead of giving unsolicited, we should also learn to “show weakness” appropriately, so as to ask for help, so that
they feel “needed”.
Because sometimes pay itself is a need, when they are really needed, in fact, it is also their desire to be “needed” to be
satisfied.
Thus, in getting along with each other, you can achieve a deeper level of self-affirmation, and think that you
are unique, special and valuable in you.
“Be needed” is a manifestation of the sense of existence, in front of the person who really loves you, you do
not need to be brave, accustomed to each other’s dependence, firm existence of each other, this is the best
state of love.
6. Is it really necessary to let each other participate in your social circle?
Psychological research has found that having mutual friends can make intimate relationships stronger and lead to a
stronger “we” identity in the presence of friends.
Introducing each other to your friends will not only make the other person feel that you approve of the relationship, your
attitude is serious, but also because of the overlapping social circle, have more security.
At the same time, when two people are deeply in conflict, friends can also play the role of “the current situation is
confused, the onlooker is clear”.
Of course, people are multi-faceted and three-dimensional, if you find that the other party’s character is indeed not in
tune with your own social circle, you do not have to force each other into your circle, there is no need to force yourself
into the other party’s circle.Love, can be intimate, can also have space for each other.
7. How do you give your partner a sense of “participation” in your life?
Don’t just ask questions on your phone. Create experiences you share with your partner.
It could be something as mundane as sharing a sunset each day, making a habit of falling asleep together…
Or it could be something big and carefully planned: a trip together, a romantic concert…
This constant sense of engagement in the dynamic of being together can bring each other closer and get used to the
other person’s presence in our lives.
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Of course, these TIPS don’t exist just to “catch up” with each other, as a “like” may be a temporary attraction, but a
“love” is a long-term business.
It’s better to deliberately but firmly pursue the one who is truly worthy of love than to waste time in the wrong
relationships that are easily started.
Because true love is not a momentary secretion of hormones, but there are so many people in the world, only
you are the only soul for me.
It is at this moment when I choose my partner that I firmly choose you. This is my determination and commitment from
time to time, and it also represents that you are the most important decision in my life.
I will not regret that I can only love you in my life, I only worry that this life is not enough for me to love you well.
