1 How to use psychology to correctly deal with the relationship between men and women

1 How to use psychology to correctly deal with the relationship between men and women

When we rush into this world, it seems that everything is

predestined, when we will meet what kind of people, what kind

of stories, and some of them accidentally become accidents. I

believe that the pursuit of happiness is the cultivation of

everyone’s life. Some people are so happy that they can meet

the right person at the right time and stay with them until they

are old. However, after going through many trials and

tribulations, most of them are missed, and there are some lucky

ones who will eventually meet again.

No matter what, love is the best thing, how to manage this love

attentively, ferment and continue it is very important.

In the cases I have worked with in the past, many helpers often

complain “Teacher, he didn’t treat me like this before, why has it

changed now?” Teacher, our relationship has lost its initial

passion, will it continue? What shall I do?” Teacher, she is not

warm to me now, is anyone out there?”

Questions like this are always plentiful. Whether there’s a rift in

your relationship or not, we need to think about it. The initial stages of every relationship are full of sweetness and happiness,

but as time goes by, when the passion fades, life naturally tends

to be flat. How can we keep our love fresh?

1. Give each other “special space”

When any couple begins to get together, they are so attracted to

each other that they want to be together every day and feel that

everything is the best for each other. However, in the process of

getting along, their feelings will gradually cool down with the

appearance of aesthetic fatigue, and over time, the rosy red will

turn into mosquito blood. During this time, it is better to leave a

certain “special space” for the other person, rather than ask the

other person to do it with intimacy at the beginning of the

relationship and let the other person slowly grow disgusted.

Boys and girls, we all need to have our own personal space to

deal with our own things, especially boys are more obvious. For

example, we often meet in our life, boys go home from work to

play games and watch football, girls will ask their girlfriends to

go shopping and catch Korean dramas. If both parties do not

have a certain amount and understanding of each other at this

time, they will complain and conflict. In fact, think about it calmly.

Everyone is tired during the day, and when they get home at night, they just want to get away from the tiredness of the day’s

work and relax. If at this time, the partner is not only intolerant

and understanding, but also complain and complain. As time

goes on, cracks will appear in the relationship.

So sometimes, it’s really important to give each other a “special

space.” At this time, each person is an individual. We should

learn to be alone and appreciate ourselves, only when two

people get together again can we keep the freshness. So, we

should learn to find each other’s caves when we are together. In

a long-term relationship, giving each other some independent

space will be good for the development of the relationship.

2. Learn to communicate positively and effectively

This is very important for every couple and we must work hard to

learn it. Improving communication skills can not only effectively

avoid misunderstandings between two people, but also express

ourselves correctly and enhance the relationship.

I have learned a lot from the book “Nonviolent Communication”,

sometimes the way of communication directly affects our

relationship.There is a question I often ask my clients during counseling. For

example, if your girlfriend is always late for appointments, how

do you express your displeasure? In fact, most people have the

same answer, just “How did you get here?” Look at the time, I’m

in a hurry “etc. At first glance, there may seem to be no problem,

but these words are full of accusations and complaints. What

girlfriend would be comfortable listening to that? Then there

might be a sudden fight, and our date is off the table.

What’s the right way to say it? Don’t blame, don’t complain, but

state the facts + express your thoughts. In the examples above,

such as: “Honey, I’m worried that you’re an hour late as we

agreed”, or “Honey, it saddens me that you’re a little late for

every appointment”, etc., if things were phrased differently, they

would definitely get more done with less.

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